Ciara and Cardi B's success proves that Black women can be successful without being tethered to toxic relationships and misogynoirist standards of womanhood.By Clarkisha Kent Everybody likes a good Cinderella story. Well, at least that's what people want you to think. Mostly because to fit the role of the titular heroine, one must have suffered long, been painfully obedient, oh-so-modest, oh-so gracious, and exceedingly humble. Only then can one assume that this alleged Cinderella figure is the ultimate pious, virtuous, and virginal woman. And only then, would they truly deserve happiness. Except...issa lie. All of it. And Cardi B's rise to fame (read: the existence of hoes) and the public, romantic ascension of Ciara (a former, single mother) proves it. Ashy Cryeses and PickMe Tinas around the world have been thrown into a tizzy this year based on the prosperity and opulence Cardi B and Ciara have been experiencing. Usually, I’d write this all off as basic jealously and hotepery, but it's a bit more complex than that, starting with this: 1. Cardi B breaks the rules according to Judeo-Christian ideas of purity translating into reward. The myth of the "good", pious, sexually-pure woman being THE premier woman (re: Purity Culture) is a myth that predates most modern societies and finds a lot of roots in Judeo-Christian beliefs. In fact, I could dwell on how this is probably the chief instigator of the Madonna-Whore complex but that’s a story for another time. Still. Said myth has always been tied to the implication that a woman must be exceedingly "pure" and "good" for them to experience success. And whether you are a believer or not, one must acknowledge that white supremacy has no qualms with utilizing such principles to keep women and non-men in line and has done so since the beginning of time. And one must also acknowledge that this weaponization of purity has always been disproportionately applied against Black and Brown women, even in our own communities. Which is why Cardi B, the walking contradiction, makes Ashies and PickMes so fucking mad. Let's be honest: Cardi has had an amazing year. She signed with Sony/ATV. Her song "Bodak Yellow" peaked at #1 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart. She's been at every award show this year. She's been on magazine cover after cover. And she just got engaged to one-third of Migos.
People are sexualizing the image of a black family hugging. Why are they sexualizing a black toddler being embraced by his pregnant mother and stepfather? Whenever Ciara breathes, a Future stan who still lives with his parents and thinks the clitoris is
Future would rather that Ciara be alone, miserable and unsuccessful -- so that he wouldn’t feel so threatened by his own mediocrity or loneliness. (Content warning: domestic abuse, stalking) I had an ex who was kind of like Future. He wasn’t good